Well I know I sound horrible but I would like to know my situation from an outside perspective this is real so please give me realistic advice.

They called me so basically I'm a kind of black sheep and I don't understand why I refused to lend money to my cousin when he lent it to me. You see the reason why they are complaining about me is because I told my parents and I made up a lie that I didn't have money so I wouldn't lend money to my family.

You see the problem is that everyone got angry with me for having lied and telling everyone that I had no money when I went on a trip with my friends Andres and Miguel. I went on a trip to Cancun since the three of us took a luxury trip to Cancun for a week. The issue is that I basically deceived everyone and I told them that I had no money so as not to lend anything to my brother.

Before, when I was about 15 years old, they stopped inviting me to family reunions because my passport had expired, my parents said they would fix it, which didn't happen (my parents didn't take it very seriously), so when the first trip for a family reunion happened, everyone went without me to Disneyland, something that bothered me a lot at that time. Of course, my parents didn't make up for it. I never had a deep relationship with my cousins. I mean, I got along well with my brother, but I haven't talked much with my cousins. I'm an introvert.

So after that hard trip for a week (Disneyland) everyone had photos where of course I wasn't there I started crying in my room and then I carried this resentment my parents said they have nothing against me and they asked me for forgiveness that next time they would make up for it spoiler (they didn't)

Fast forward to when I was 16 a week before my parents and siblings went with my uncles to Niagara Falls to celebrate Christmas, my mother was always very close to my aunt and my uncle got along well with my father enough to leave me alone before the 24th they literally hired me a babysitter and basically.

At 16 my relationship with my cousins ​​got worse and they didn't talk to me at all, which I don't care about because the vacations are organized by my uncles, the problem is that they excluded me from every family vacation and my parents never did anything my brother's birthday (April 16) everyone to a water park my cousin Kevin's birthday (November 23) everyone to Disneyland my mother's birthday (January 30) Niagara Falls my father (February 4) everyone to Japan and so on When someone had a birthday except me they took a trip.

And nothing, my cousins ​​avoided me, but they talked to my brother and so on, a little bit of trips and photos from which of course they excluded me. Let's move forward to the present. I'm 24 years old, I'm an ethical hacker and I made good money. I have my friend Andrés, my neighbor who is an accountant, and my friend Miguel, who is also in cybersecurity, like me, Miguel is 24 years old.

Well the issue is that I have not lent to my cousin since once he lent me money specifically on October 6, 2024 and at that time he demanded that I return it (he has his bad experiences with loans) well he lent it to me and I had to pay it back in installments at that time I had problems with the rent of my house I moved for personal reasons resentment at not being invited was a factor it was the first time they asked me why I was leaving I told my parents what I felt and they They said that I was very dramatic that if I were more sociable I would go with them and I told them that I better go to hell, I don't want to be with you, we had an argument and an unpleasant goodbye.

So I didn't leave at all and now my parents do remember me (I left when I was 19)

The issue is that I don't know how to deal with this problem, my parents, my uncles and everyone complain to me for having hidden money instead of lending it to my cousin. He has student debt and the investment didn't work out. I tried the same thing and it didn't work out.

My uncles are not in the best financial situation so I think they can no longer afford to travel like before, especially with Trump's tariffs that made the economy worse.

And the problem was that I lied to my cousin and my entire family saying that I didn't have any money when I sent everyone photos on Instagram of my vacation in Cancun, there we were Andrés and Miguel enjoying the beaches and the smoothies and the suites, it was worth it.

Am I the bad one? If I ask this question because my family is complaining to me about family values ​​and for having lied to them.

Do you have any advice to deal with this situation?