I was in a relationship with a girl who constantly canceled our plans at the very last minute. She would often accuse me of not loving her, saying I would eventually get bored and leave her. Sometimes she'd even suggest that I should find someone else.

She used to complain that I never went to see her, but whenever I said I would, she’d come up with excuses — like saying her room was a mess. Every time I tried to bring up how I felt, she’d respond with: "If you don’t like it, I’ll just leave."

She also played mind games, trying to make me jealous by telling me other guys were asking if she was single. One day, she blocked me on WhatsApp, but then sent me a text saying she missed me. Later on, her mom called me, asking what had happened and whether I still had feelings for her daughter.

Not long after, my ex called, inviting me to her mom’s birthday party. Then, she messaged me again saying she loved me and missed me more than she thought she would, and asked if I wanted to go over to her place. I turned her down, and she told me I had abandoned her — that it was "my choice." She asked if I was happy with the decision, and said she had given up on the idea of us getting back together. She asked me not to message her anymore so she wouldn’t get false hopes. She told me I had taken away her happiness and she wanted it back.

All of this left me feeling really confused. Honestly, the emotional rollercoaster has pushed me to a dark place. I went through a relationship full of mixed signals, coldness, jealousy, and constant emotional distance. She always justified her actions by saying she was "insecure" — but it didn’t stop it from hurting.

She would suggest I meet someone else, avoided sharing her social media, seemed to prefer being apart, broke promises, got upset at almost anything I said, and would disappear every time I tried to open up. I still don’t understand what I did wrong, because my feelings for her were always sincere.

Whenever I tried to make plans to see her, some excuse would pop up. She would even push me to download dating apps, and after we broke up, I found out she was already using them.

I remember one time she told me she wasn’t going to a friend’s party, so I said I’d go to church. Later on, she changed her mind and decided to go to the party after all, and when I mentioned it, she kept insisting that I should go to church while she went out.

I told her that if she didn’t want me to come with her, she could’ve just been honest — and she said I had hurt her feelings. I asked if I could come over earlier that day so we could spend some time together before the party, but she said no.

I still went to her place and waited outside with two chocolates. Her sister saw me, invited me upstairs, and once I was there, my ex introduced me as her boyfriend to her friends. Later that same night, out of nowhere, she said: "Let’s download a dating app and find a hot girl for you," right in the middle of the party.