I (24F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (25M) for two years. Lately, I’ve been realizing that I’ve become addicted to breadcrumbs—the tiniest signs of affection, the bare minimum effort, the “sorry” that comes after he hurts me. I’ve been clinging to those crumbs like they’re enough, because that’s all I’ve been getting for a long time.

He doesn’t give me quality time, doesn’t offer reassurance, and doesn’t show me through actions that he cares. I never asked for expensive dates or material things—just his time. But when I asked for a little of that, he said he was too busy… only for me to find out later he was out hanging with his friends. That kind of pain hits different. It made me feel like they matter more than I do, like they make him happier.

I’ve found myself begging for moments. Crying myself to sleep. Telling him I was hurting and only receiving a lifeless “sorry” in return. No real comfort. No effort. Just silence.

I thought i don’t make him happy anymore, amd I’m just a nuisance to him. So for the sake of my own heart, I’ve decided to walk away—even though it feels like I’m tearing myself apart.

I’m scared because it feels like I’m addicted to the small hope that he might change. But I know I deserve more than crumbs. I deserve someone who chooses me fully, not when it’s convenient.

Am I doing the right thing by finally letting go? Any encouragement or advice would really help. I don’t want to keep settling for less than I deserve.