So I’m pregnant and as what most women do, they organize a baby shower! My MIL and her boyfriend were invited, but they have a family member that we do not associate ourselves with. This individual has personally harassed me and he has shown signs of pedophilic tendencies. We respect that she still wants to support them, but keep this toxic individual away from us as far as possible. Especially when our baby girl arrives.

We had explicitly told his MIL that this individual is not invited (and she is aware of what this person has done). She gave us that reassurance by telling a story as to how he will not be attending.

Come the day of my baby shower, this exact person that we explicitly did not want is getting out of their car asking to take pictures with us. My husband and I are obviously in shock that she did this after it was so clear that we didn’t want to see him. We take the pictures thinking maybe the boyfriend and him would leave and the MIL was staying? (That’s what she said would be the situation actually) But the boyfriend walks in and then the individual walks in right after bee lining toward the pizza and pop. He then sits down and stayed the entire event.

We waited till after the baby shower was over and called her later that night to say that was not okay and that it needs to never happen again. She attempted to say we said yes once we saw this individual which was never the case. Then it was we said it was okay to get some pizza real quick. (But then he stayed the entire event, so thats a lie). Then she ended it with “it seemed okay. He was on good behavior”. We told her she needs to respect our boundaries and it’s concerning to tell us a lie on how he wouldn’t be there and then he was. We asked her to never do it again and she couldn’t give us that reassurance once. How can I trust her around my baby and that she won’t bring this individual around even when we said no so many times?