US I trusted a friend to watch my dog while i traveled to a part of the world where if I did take my dog with me she wouldnt be allowed back. It was a long trip. I left my dog with her in october and am trying to go pick her up now. I went to get married and it took a while to do this. But this is my first marriage and I've been wanting to do this for about three years now since I started talking to the woman that I just recently married. I'm a trucker, so getting out to where I can pick up my dog requires getting loads from my company that go in that direction. It can take a long time to make these things happen. My friend lives on the opposite side of the US from me. She swore to me that everything would be fine. And that it was okay. But partway into my trip. There were all kinds of problems. I was on the opposite side of the earth and there's nothing I could do except just trust that she could handle it. This has been no way a one-sided friendship, I have done so much for her and loaned her so much money for her medications that I just honestly know I'll never get back and I'm okay with it, thousands of dollars. I thought that this was a reasonable ask and she made it seem like it was too. So, here we are at the point where I want to come pick up my dog and partway through this. She had pressured me into getting this dog fixed, knowing full wealth. I had planned on her having puppies that I was going to raise alongside my children, with my new wife, who is starting a family with me. I was pushed into this really given no option. She said she couldn't handle the dog's behavior Because she had another female dog that couldn't handle being around an unfixed female like that. So, I agreed just to make things a little more manageable, but I don't think she got fixed until really only a week ago, which means it was for no benefit of the dogsitter It was just because she took my dog's ability to have puppies just because she's anti dog breeding. I'm not really a fan of dog breeding so much myself, but I have never had a dog this trainable. I've never had a dog that responds to me the way she does. And I wanted that for my kids too. She truly was one in a million and now I won't have another of her. So now I'm getting close. But the dog siver is talking like she wants to evaluate whether or not I should have my own dog back and thinks that she might keep my dog Because I'm a trucker and she doesn't think a trucker should have a dog. I'm not so sure how I'm going to handle this if I show up and she tells me she's keeping the dog. What would you do if someone tried to keep your dog from you? Am I the asshole here?