Met this guy online...few reservations mainly that hes older...by 6 yrs. Not the issue...he mentiined his wife died...about 10 yrs ago. I felt bad didnt want to ask details. I just looked up his name and then obituarys and found her (same last name, wedding pics) then saw she was pregnant and they both (baby and mom) died in a car accident. That is trauma. Hes dated long term after but i feel like ill always live in her shadow. My ex ghosted me after 10 yrs and i have my own trauma of not being good enough. Im honestly happy single but i felt like hes a good guy who seems really kind.

AITAH: Im not sure i wanna pursue this...but he was so happy to get to know me that i dont think i can go further ( we havent met in person) im thinking better nott to.