Hi everyone, it’s been a while and I know an update has been overdue and I feel like I can finally now give you guys one. It’s been a few weeks and a lot of stressful things have happened so I apologize for not updating sooner. I finally have a minute to update and I’m going to try to summarize events as a lot has happened so I’m sorry if details seem to be missing.

When I went back home, my husband wasn’t there (he was at work) I contemplated a ton and was very nervous to confront him as I dislike confrontation and what comes out of it, I was also sick and feeling weak so I just decided to go to sleep, and confront him the next morning, the next morning came and we did talk. At first it was awkward small talk over breakfast, he was being extra sweet though since he bought me coffee before I woke up, it was nice.

I didn’t want to make a huge deal out of it so I just mentioned the picture, he was somehow offended and asked to see it. I showed him and he said something like “oh it’s just song lyrics and means nothing” we went back and forth on this, don’t fully remember what was said but ultimately I just let it go.

I went back to work the next day, and for the next few days me and him would argue about Angela almost everyday, the only times we didn’t argue is when we would ignore each other which was done 90% of the time. I know this was childish of us to do but I was mad at him and just didn’t feel ready to try and repair things, getting a divorce or separating also felt extreme at the time as I had no evidence of him cheating, and it was just a theory.

Work was honestly like an escape as I had my friends/coworkers there and was able to just be away. for reference I worked at a small independently owned office as a receptionist, I’ve worked there for 5 years and it was my favorite job, our boss was great, pay was good, I had friends there and benefits were amazing and despite occasionally being yelled at over the phone, It was honestly the best job I’ve ever worked at. Then randomly at work we started to get prank calls, now it’s not totally unusual but these ones would happen everyday, it would usually be someone just screaming and then hanging up. We were instructed to wait for the other person to speak first during this.

After a few days these prank calls did stop but we kept getting calls from different people asking to talk to our boss, which was odd because rarely would we get this request, this happened multiple times a day for a few days. My boss usually sends these calls to voice mail as he’s busy so few days later I’m about to leave when he asks if I can stay for a bit and talk to him in his office. I did and this is where he showed me the voice mails and asked if I knew these people, they were all complaints about me. I didn’t recognize any of the voices so I said no. My boss assumed these weren’t real but to try and find out who these people might be, because of this when someone would call and ask to talk to our boss we had to ask for a phone number and name. Some would provide it, some wouldn’t.

Eventually this would happen every single hour and again all complaints about me, my boss decided to just send me home for a few days to see if the calls would end which they didn’t. A few days turned into a week and then I got a call and was fired.

From what my coworkers told me the calls continued and my boss was just sick of it as he would have to call back each time and decided it was just easier to fire me. I suspect this was Angela and her friends doing this to try to get me fired and they succeeded.

During the week I was home, it was driving me crazy as sometimes I would have to be home with my husband and all I wanted to do was just argue, though no issues until I caught him stalking Angela’s Instagram, he would sleep on the couch and I would sleep in the room, I caught him when I saw him on his phone from the hallway.

I honestly was just tired from it all so I did blow up at him, his excuse was he just wanted to check up on her. When I told him I was fired and that I suspected it was Angela he basically called me crazy and said she would never do anything like that.

I was so drained that I didn’t even argue, in fact I didn’t even talk to him anymore, which is probably why he felt it was okay to come home late one night, drunk with faded lipstick on and glitter, we had another argument and he left. He didn’t come back for days and sent flowers and my favorite food to me with a note that said “I’m sorry, I love you.”

He came home later that day and he looked pretty distraught and wanted to explain, I let him. His reasoning was that he felt awful about how our relationship was and needed to de-stress from it, he went out with a few friends for drinks and some girl kissed him and was dancing up on him, he said he rejected her immediately and felt disgusted. I don’t know if I believe that still. I asked about Angela and if he was still talking to her to which he said no but she did reach out a few times and he did see her once.

I asked if they ever slept with each other and he said no but she kissed him and he rejected her. I asked a whole bunch of other questions about our relationship and some of the answers did hurt. I told him I wanted to separate just for a little bit, he broke down crying and begged me not to leave him, I apologized and packed most of my things as he was on his knees next to me apologizing.

I ignored him and left. For the last 2 weeks I’ve been at my parents house, I finally told them what happened and they despise him. He’s been up here almost daily trying to talk to me and my parents refuse to let him see me (my parents live in the next town over).He’s sent me food, flowers, gift cards, literally anything you can DoorDash, he’s sent. I’ve gotten spam calls and messages from him, and I’ve blocked him. Yet he’s gotten his family and some of my distant relatives to do the same.

Honestly I’m tired of him and have begged him to stop trying to contact me, obviously hasn’t worked much. For my next moves I am thinking of divorce but I’m just not ready yet, none of this feels real, I just need to take time and heal a little before making that decision, I have a feeling divorce is going to be hard so I just can’t handle that yet or another option is therapy and try to reconcile. I’m currently trying to find a job in my parents town, and I plan to stay here for a while until I’m able to move on fully. Also I know I didn’t talk about her much but as for Angela I have no idea if he’s talking to her still or anything about her and I want to keep it that way. I don’t think there is going to be another update since our relationship is pretty much over, thank you to those who checked up on me and commented advice I’m forever grateful.