This is an old story. It doesn't bother me too much, but I guess I'm just looking for validation.

I had a friend who I knew for a year. At the time "he" was somewhat affectionate towards me and texted me about advice and who knows what.

I knew them for about a year and then "he" decided to become a woman.

So "she" showed up at one point dressed in the most awfully stereotypical girly clothes and declared that she was a woman now.

A few days later, we were on some kind of group chat and she started spewing nonsense about some guy for supposedly being transphobic. So the guy, who I also know personally came out in defence of himself and everyone kind of put her in her place for being nasty towards him for no reason.

Mind you, I don't know and don't care about what might have happened between them privately. It should have been solved privately.

So, upset with the backlash, she starts messaging me privately. I try to explain what was happening and what she should have done instead, she deflects. At one point I addressed her by mistake with the male "you" pronoun in our language.

I would have thought she would cut me some slack considering I knew her as a man for a year, but I guess that was out of the question.

Anyway, we grew distant after that. I believe she even got cosmetic surgery at one point.

I unfollowed her on Facebook when she started posting obscenities.

I think about it now and then if I did the right thing. This whole subject doesn't sit well with me in the first place for many reasons and I'm only respectable about it out of courtesy, not support, because it burned so many bridges on a personal level among other things.