This is like just a really small issue but I‘m kinda really pissed off about it even tho it’s not that big of a deal. I just wanna know if you feel like I‘m overreacting and what I should do next.

My Friend (M) and I had planned to go on a 9-day vacation to Turkey in April. Shortly before the trip, there was a lot of talk in the press about big protests taking place in Istanbul and Izmir because of the discrediting of the mayor of Istanbul. We wanted to visit Istanbul, Izmir and Antalya.

She called me a little less than a week before and said she no longer wanted to go. After doing some research, it was clear that a trip there would not be a problem and that the protests did not pose any danger. She was of the opinion that she would still be worried and definitely didn't want to make the trip. She had booked the flights and I had booked the accommodation. She would have been refunded almost everything on the flights. Unfortunately, I realized too late that I would only get €20 of the €350 refunded in the event of a cancellation because I had actually taken out travel insurance.

It was just too bad for me to spend so much money for nothing so I persuaded my boyfriend to go with me. Because it was such short notice, I had to pay an extra €200 for the flights, which would actually have only cost around €70.

The trip was nice and there were no protests that would have bothered me in any way, as was to be expected.

Yesterday M asked me if she could have 20€ of the 40€ she didn't get back from the cancelled flights from me. I think it's a bit ridiculous as it was her decision not to go and that was the reason for the costs. I also had the €200 that I had to pay extra because of her decision, which I wasn't really happy about either.

I then suggested that we could go out for a meal or paint some ceramics or do something cool together to make up for the missed vacation, so to speak. I would have paid what would have been at least €20 for me. Probably even more, but then at least we could have done something cool together.

She reacted really strangely and said that Paypal would be easier.

(I'm also sure that she doesn't have any money problems as she worked and saved a lot in the last year before her studies and also receives maintenance from her parents)

I'm quite pissed off about it, but it's only €20 that you don't have to argue about and that's why I've sent it to her now, but in general it's just a matter of principle. I thought it was kind of cheeky that she asked and then to react so strangely and stingily to my nice offer really hit me.

Am I overreacting here or is it justified to be pissed off and somehow angry?