I know I’m not the jerk in this situation but I wanted a large group to hear my story and help me decide what is right.

I had a best-friend who was my other half, like we shared one brain cell and use to finish each other sentences. We use to be with each other everyday! I loved her deeply.

But I knew she was the source of the bed bugs I only even actually saw one once in her home, but would get bite ferociously if I was at her house. Only when I would go to her house or sit in her car would this happen. It took me a while to figure out it was bed bugs because I had never come across them before. I’d just brush it off not knowing what they were but into our 5 year friendship around the third year is when I knew she was the source for sure.

I never knew how to approach her about because I know people can be embarrassed by it, and we were 17 years old at the time so you know juveniles are known for being immature and bullying about things like that.

I like to think I’m very mature for my age even then. And understanding we were so close you’d think she’d be comfortable enough to just talk to me about. But I never asked her about it because #1 I don’t like confrontation. And #2 because this was my bestest friend my soul mate and I didn’t want the friendship to end bad if I brought it up.

So for a few years I put up with this thankfully I never got them considering I’d always bag my clothes and take a piping hot shower after seeing her.

During the pandemic we kinda drifted apart and maybe to some degree it was because I started to feel anger towards her that she would just act so oblivious to the fact that she had bed bugs and invite her self over knowing. I remember showing her my back one night after hanging out and it was covered in hives itchy she just looked and says “oh I don’t know what that could be” it frustrated me because I was trying to give her an opportunity to come clean. And she never did, just would act oblivious. It became exhausting live this way.

I don’t know what triggered it but on a random day I just decided I was fed up and stopped talking to her, essentially ghosted her. The person who I was the closet with for 5 years, I mean we were inseparable.

Eventually she reached out to me asking me what she did wrong and how can we solve it. And I just felt like a slap in the face I was over the situation and over treading lightly when she should have some common sense about what she exposed me to.

I told her that because of things she had done I didn’t want to be friends anymore to which she asked for a sit down so we could talk about it because she didn’t “ understand “ I agreed but chicken out of going the day before. I just hate confrontation and I could never imagine that she would actually sit there and admit that she had bedbugs .

So know we haven’t talked in over a year . But I miss her sometimes I see our memories pop up and get sad became the bond was so real. But then I also think there’s no way she didn’t know she had then, and to expose me to it and not even warn me is evil .

I just keep having the urge to text her though and become friends again but I don’t want to go though having to bag my clothes and take boiling hot showers every time I see her . And when I think of the deception I get angry more than sad… But then I also think we were young and maybe she was just embarrassed and didn’t know how to tell me ?

I’m a libra so I always see both sides of situations it’s my achilles Hill 😭. Plus I think to myself I would be her friend again if she would admit her wrong. I’d be open to helping her figure out how to get rid of it (which I hear is nearly impossible once the bugs have been around that long) .

But then I think if the person won’t even admit the problem how can you move forward . But I’ve never just flat out told her you have bed bugs but also it’s like you know you have them so why she I have to even point out the elephant in the room.

Anyway what do you think is it worth texting her to have a sit down and address why I ghosted her ?? I mean I just think about this one subreddit I came across awhile ago where a friend told another friend she had bugs and they ended up fighting😭. For some reason it hard for people to admit to it . :( And even though she did me dirty I NEVER told our mutual friends why we stopped being friends when they would ask because I know they’d look at her differently and I know it’s not her fault she had bedbugs I hear you can get they from anywhere.

It’s been on my mind lately …does anybody have advice or should I just move on even though I think about her and our friendship. Like she was my other half personality wise. And she lives with her mom so it’s not her fault her mom won’t figure it out when she’s the adult BUT it is her fault she exposed me to them knowingly.

What do you guys think 😬