We just got up. We were drinking coffee and began watching the newest episode of the pitt to begin our day. Prior to starting the episode my gf wanted to buy dog food for her new dog. She found the brand she wanted and purchased it (she was hyperfixated on why Farm & Fleet was cheaper than Amazon). During the purchase her old last name popped up (previously divorced). She grew concerned out of confusion for why. I explained that it’s probably just a glitch. Computers and phones are like filing cabinets with dividers for folders. The more you open up a filing cabinet and look, stuff eventually slips thru the cracks. It’s fine, it normally corrects itself. It’s just a glitch and it’ll fix itself. The receipt for the purchase shown her current last name. She wanted to look into it (beginning of her hyperfixation) more but i wanted to spend undivided time with her. We begin watching the show. She reluctantly agreed. 30 minutes into the 40 minute episode, we pause it so she can let the dog out again. She comes back, we finish the episode. After the episode is done, she tells me, “okay I need to eat then go to the gym”. Right after she tells me this she immediately goes back to hyperfixation on the last name issue. I place my hand over her phone (not on it, just held my hand between her screen and her POV) and tell her to stop. She’s hyperfixating. She got pissed off and stormed off to the kitchen to make her breakfast. After she eats she is still pissed and shoes me out the door while making small comments. I get ready to go and I’m waiting by the door to say goodbye. She eventually comes down to the front door so she can lock it. I go to give her a kiss goodbye and she pulls away. I ask what’s wrong? She tells me I was being mean and rude and trying to control her. She was trying to rationalize that she wasn’t hyperfixating cause she was able to “focus and watch a show” (she was holding her dog because the dog wouldn’t lay down the whole time we were watching the show so she didn’t have access to her phone).

I only told her ok (calmly) because when someone is mad, the ability to rationalize or see others perspectives become severely diminished (temporarily). Am I the asshole because I told her to stop (hyperfixating)? I wasn’t able to express to her that I could see where it was gonna go (she hyperfixates and asks me the same questions multiple times just differently. She’ll look into the problem more as well interrupting time we spend together. I’ll give an answer and she proceeds to get pissed more and will tell me, “I didn’t ask for advice. I was asking myself trying to work through it”!). Could I have went about it differently? Sure. But that’s how I handled it in the moment. I had zero malicious intent. This is my only day off and I wanted undivided time with her just as she asks of me.