I’ll try to keep it short! Please bear with me. My partner and I have quite a big age gap, she’s 20 years older than me, not been a big problem and we’ve stayed together over 25 years. I’ve always felt a bit left out of her family’s life, not invited to things and never really hear from them until they want something, so I have tried to just ignore it but guess I let the resentment build up. So in September last year my brother died, unexpectedly and it’s left me in a really bad place, my sister has cancer and became terminal this year. I haven’t heard from any of her family, no messages of sympathy or any other contact. We had a bit of a row and I told her that I was disappointed and felt cast out. So she had the bright idea to call them and tell them to get in touch. I got a call and told her brother that I didn’t know who he was anymore and hung up the phone. I’ve ignored all other calls since and don’t want any further contact with the family but don’t want to hurt anyone esp my partner. I guess I acted in the heat of the moment and regret my words but feel really let down. AITAH?