I (40F) am mother to, lets call her Ida (8F) and married to Mark (75M) Ida's biological father to whom I've been married to for more than a decade. Recently I've noticed that when Mark corrects Ida's behavior he also 'corrects' mine. So if Ida takes her plate to the sink without scraping the scraps into the trash he will remind her and me in the same sentence. Or if he reminds Ida to turn off her bedroom light 'Brownest, make sure your lights are off too'. Well last night I kind of reached the end of my rope. You know how sometimes the toilet water will run if you dont jiggle the handle? Our toilet does this, yes I know its an easy fix, or at least it should be. Anywho, I'd gotten up to use the restroom and Mark rolls over 'make sure you stop the water running, you leave it on all night Brownest' this is not the 1st time Mark has implied or outright accused me of leaving the water running. It's just the 3 of us in the house. I stopped midstride and loudly snapped that if he's so concerned about the water running he should fix the toilet and if the water IS running in the middle of the night who does he think MOST needs a reminder, I, his COPARENT or our daughter Ida who carries a flashlight from her room to the bathroom? (There's a nightlight in the restroom but she insists it's not enough) I went ahead and took care of my business and returned to bed. Mark had turned his back to me by the time I laid back down which is his way of passive aggressively letting me know he's upset with me. Usually we cuddle and it's still rather chilly where we are so the body heat helps. He even scooted away when I tried to snuggle. Sure, perhaps it could have waited til morning but I AM an adult that is fully aware of how to use the restroom. Is it possible that on occasion I leave the water running? I'm human of course, especially if I'm in a hurry. But the middle of the night? When theres no rush and I'm fully aware that the jiggle has to happen? Unless I'm sleepwalking or blackout drunk (left that in college thank God) l don't see how I could miss this crucial step. Now I'm second guessing myself, did I overreact? Am I the AH here?