Hi, I'm Erica (W19) and I met online a guy in August 2024, let's call him John (M19). However, everything happened very quickly and within a week of knowing each other we were "together" and in love.

Everything was going well, we maintained a long-distance relationship. Until a month later he talked to me and said that this was not what he wanted for his life. I accepted his opinion and desire and we stopped talking.

After about two weeks he contacted me and we started talking again as if we were dating again. After a month he stopped responding to me and disappeared for a while, only to come back to me later to get sexual photos.

We argued a lot, but there was always something that united us, a certain chemistry. Between these arguments we stopped talking for the third time and then I made a trend on Instagram's close friends, something that was supposed to be funny, and, according to him, he acted out of jealousy and anger, and decided to call me a hottie in his Instagram notes. I didn't answer him, since I assumed he just wanted attention, and we continued not speaking, but it was something that hurt me a lot, I didn't expect that coming from him, especially because I loved him.

When we spoke again, I confronted him about it and he apologized and saying that he wanted to try to do things again in a more honest way. He seemed really dedicated to making things work, but I was upset and wanted hurt him too. I was already with someone else, and I posted a picture on Instagram admitting that I was involved with someone else. He was furious, as you would expect, and we unfollowed each other, and then I thought it was finally over.

But no, John contacted me again, we tried again, but as expected we no longer trusted each other and it would never work out, so we decided to maintain a friends with benefits relationship. We both agreed that we were free to meet other people, however there was a rule "Let me know when emotional desire, physical desire, or a first date arises."

Time passed and we were fine. Until I accidentally opened one of his Instagram stories, and it was a video of him kissing another girl. I felt betrayed, we had only agreed on one thing, and he couldn't even tell me. I didn't confront him about it, the next day, at night he told me that he had met another girl. I congratulated him and told him not to be an asshole to the girl . He said "thank you" and I liked the message. I decided not to continue the conversation, because if I were in the girl's shoes, I wouldn't like him talking to his ex, out of respect.

He has been sending me a message, but I have not responded. I know that we had a great bond and that although we didn't work out in love, we were good friends, supporting each other in the most difficult moments. I understand that he still sees me as a safe haven, but I don't think it's right to continue talking when he's dating someone else.