I’m a 21F and partner M35 We have a 2 year old daughter together. He works an hour and a half away every week. Hes home for 2 days a week while i have my daughter 24/7 5 days a week. don’t get me wrong i misss him when hes not here but i just dont want to have sex with him anymore. We haven’t had sex in about a week and a half. It’s easter sunday today and we haven’t put family over. it’s down time atm our daughters asleep and im absolutely tired! i’m lying down next to my partner and he’s playing with his mf c**k and idk it was a bit of a turn off. i told him how h was tired and he responds with “i know what helps me go to sleep when im tired” i just sighed and said im not in the mood. he gets all defensive saying that im never in the mood. I proceed to tell him that if he’d actually help me around the place he’d get some. he was not impressed by that. i told him it’s an energy thing.. if he actually stopped taking for once and helped me clean up or help with our daughter id have alot more energy to sleep with him. He responds with “im going to the shops now”😤 I feel like im not valued in my relationship. like it always has to be a competition between us with who does the most work and i’m so sick of it.

How can i talk to my partner about this!? What’s a smart way of putting into words that a male might u destined that doesn’t feel like im attacking him or nagging

Edit: sometimes when we have sex he tries to record it and posts it without my consent on this platform