edit: please dont upvote this post. she's on reddit a lot and i dont want her seeing this and lashing out

We've been dating for 4 years, known her for 6. She moved into my apartment with me for 3 years and then just moved into a new house with me (mother-daughter style house that my parents pay for. we stay on the smaller apartment-sized side and pay rent/i take care of the property for my parents)

Today I had umbilical surgery after waiting 8 months because I do landscaping and couldn't get it mid-work season. I felt fine after the surgery, and it was as if she was disappointed that i wasn't bed-ridden. On top of all of this, I asked my dad to help us set up a bidet when he drove us back (she doesn't drive anywhere but has a brand new car that I PAY the bills for because she can't work somewhere without fucking her coworkers. I have taken care of her better than her own family the entire 6 years I've known her, and she has only told me she loved me back a handful of times.

When my dad was setting it up he began getting frustrated. He has a horrible temper. I told him it take 10 minutes according to amazon reviews, and he told me I should've died on the operating table. He has been emotionally abusive to me my entire life, and the only way I know how to cope with it is to speak up for myself and say fucked up things to him back. He left after he was done.

After he left I was resting on the couch, and my gf started freaking out because the bottom of my feet were dirty from the entranceway of the garage. She's a complete neat freak. She swiffers the entire house every day (making me help her), doesn't allow clothes that were worn outside for 5 minutes inside, and every time I leave the house I have to shower. In my old apartment she literally made me piss in cups at night because the other side of the apartment was "clean" and couldn't be stepped on to get to the bathroom.

After being screamed at I told her that I couldn't believe they were treating me this way right after surgery. I'm lucky my wound didn't open from all the stress. She then began yelling and screaming, running all over the place saying she wanted to break up.

I think I'm finally done. I didn't want to leave her because we just moved and the place is nice, but there's no way I can fix this. My parents don't even live next to us yet and it's already this bad.

edit: i justify all this because i can say hurtful things sometimes, but idk if that's a justification at this point. also shes a clean freak because she got a staph infection when her grandmother was in the hospital. i just like being able to take care of people i love, but maybe i should take care of myself too