A little context. My dad passed away in 2011 and my mom moved in with me in 2015. I bought a next gen house so basically there's a separate living area like a small attached apartment for my mom but she is always in in the main house and intruding in my space.

I'm divorced with 2 kids. My mom doesn't help with my kids. She doesn't drive. We live in a subdivision that's not close to anything where she can walk. I'm responsible for all of her needs which can be overwhelming. She has lupus amongst other health conditions so there's a lot of Dr's appt, pharmacy, labs, bank, grocery, and occasional dental appt.

In my culture, the son is supposed to take care of the parents. My parents sold their home and gave all of their money to my brother (only son) so he can buy his own house. Well...my brother is an asshole. He didn't want her around and kicked her out. Now she's homeless and has no money so I had to take her in.

My mom lives with me and pays not one penny. She constantly nags at me. She's controlling. She criticizes my parenting and how I do things. She used to help me with my dishes but has recently stopped and even nags at me now that I need to wash my son's cups. We use a dishwasher so I don't see why she has to be this way. Also, I don't have a problem with doing my own dishes FYI but just the nagging.

At this point, I'm just tired of living with my mom. When my brother kicked her out, I thought this was a temporary thing. 10 years later she's still with me. She gets social security and lives off of that but she doesn't pay rent, cable, internet, water, garbage, gas or electricity.

I texted my sister that it's time someone else steps up and take her in because I've been supporting her for the last 10 years. I have one brother and three sisters. With the exception of my brother, they are all doing better than me financially since I am on a single income. My sister replied with she will ask my mom to find a place to move. Now I feel bad.

Am I the asshole? I just feel I'm enabling my siblings by allowing them to dump her on me. They will not help my mom pick up her meds, take her to her appts or grocery store. I've had enough.