I'm 17M.

Our neighbor is in his early 40s I think. He is married. Never had kids.

I have a gym set up in the garage and sometimes I leave the door open to work out. He started to come over, then talk to me about his body concerns. The first few times I didn't think much of it, but then I realized he's just fishing for compliments or wanting me to build him up. When he doesn't get the response he wants from me, he will start complimenting me instead. I'm assuming his intention is that I will return the favor. I don't.

He asked if he could workout with my equipment and I said no (politely). I just want to workout in peace. I like my space. That's one of the reasons I don't go to a public gym.

Unfortunately last month my grandpa gave him my phone number. My grandpa recently had a fall and it has made him a bit paranoid of his own mortality, so in his defense he was just trying to organize his own 'in case of emergency' plan.

But I received the following text from the neighbor the same day: A shirtless photo of himself and a follow-up text in which he said he is 'getting fat' (he's not). I was at work and didn't reply but he saw that I read it and eventually sent me another text complaining about his high libido (???) and reminiscing about being my age. He has previously complained to me about his wife and keeps eluding to some wild times in his youth but not being clear enough that I know what he’s trying to say?

I eventually replied with: Mr. [his name] We're not close enough for you to be talking to me like this. His reply: How do I get close to you? 😚

Me: You don't. Join a gym, or maybe get a trainer. Good luck. I know [Grandpa's name] gave you my contact information, but it wasn't for this. I prefer you just text my parents or grandpa instead if you need something.

He stopped contacting me for a while, then one night around 2 a.m. he just repeatedly texted me my name and then apologized saying he was drunk. I didn’t reply. He then sent me a picture of his drink glass (as proof I guess?). When I didn't reply again, he asked me what cologne I use. I didn't reply.

Last night, he called me and I didn’t answer and hit end call so it would stop ringing, because I’d told him I don’t want to be contacted. Later I saw an ambulance arrive and about a few hours after that, he came to our door, repeatedly ringing the doorbell. I answered and he went off on me about hanging up on him, how we live in a rural area and it's important to stick close to one another and that he would never do that if I was in need (or my grandpa). He explained his wife had a seizure.

During this conversation, my family found out I had ignored his request for help and they (particularly my grandpa) are angry with me.

My family is very ~religious~ and I know this man is too. We all go to the same church. I don’t think I am religious anymore but I’ve been attending occasionally mostly to appease my family so they don’t sabotage my future plans of moving out next year when I graduate.

Why am I responsible for answering the emergency? Why didn’t he call my grandpa or parents?

My parents want me to go over there every day, and help him with chores since his wife is unable.

I don’t want to go.

We are at a stand off.