My (29f) gave his (42m) mom half of his life insurance policy. We have two children. 20months and 6 weeks old, and we’ve been together a little over 3 years. We are engaged as well and have a date set for next year. I was under the impression that life insurance was meant for you immediate family (me and the children) to help me be able to support them if something were to happen. His mom is amazing and I know she would use most of her half to assist me with the kids. That’s just the person she is. But if her or I die before him, the clause is that persons half gets split between his siblings instead of going to the other person to help care for the kids. I had a lot of questions about why he chose to do it this was and I feels it’s kinda odd. I am an only child so he said bc of that I don’t “get it”. And basically was telling me I was messed up for even questioning him and it just seems like I want the money. But like… well ya because my worry is taking care of my kids.

I’m a stay at home mom and have no savings of my own. So it would be really tough on us in the event something happened to him. Idk am I in the wrong for questioning this? I’m just left feeling so confused right now. He’s also been pressuring me to get a job (i literally just had a baby and I’m breastfeeding). It just feels like he doesn’t see me as a partner and more like an inconvenience. I do all of our housework (cooking cleaning) take care of both kids all day. And I’m a very involved mom and make sure I take time everyday to benefit my toddlers learning and development.

I prefer to not work right now because I want to be the one raising my children and not sending them to daycare. I also want to homeschool and his response was “what qualifications do you have for that”. For reference I have a degree in business marketing, a biology background as well (I was pre med for two semesters). He doesn’t seem to think I’m intelligent enough to homeschool children which I find so rude and offensive. He’s a self made entrepreneur who hardly graduated high-school. And while I don’t believe college is for everyone it’s just kind of rude to judge me in that way when I worked hard to achieve my education. I’m left feeling not very secure in this relationship and I’m not sure what to do.