I work completely remote while my fiancé works in the office. And I find his mother at our home for several (3-4) days at a time every couple of months. Most of which are workdays. I just don’t get it. He’s at work the majority of the time, she does not go out to explore our city just sits on the couch watching TV while I am working all day. And naturally I feel the need to entertain/ make sure she is okay. Which is draining.

But I am tired of her being in my space and it sounds awful because she’s not even doing anything and she is nice but her presence alone is beginning to disrupt me even if in separate rooms. I just don’t get it, you come here to watch tv? While your son goes to work and I work from home?

Some days I like to work on the couch or in the living room and I feel like I can’t do that when she’s here because all she does is sit on the couch and watch tv. I also just hate anyone in my space for prolonged periods of time and my fiance’ knows I need space to recharge. I don’t understand why he thinks HIS mother would be the exception to that. I enjoy my alone time and she’s become suffocating and I just can’t anymore.

Since last April she has been to our home 5 times. And it’s just absolutely ridiculous at this point. He has now told me his mother wants to come visit for 3-4 days(ALL WEEKDAYS BUT ONE), he has no plans on taking time off but hanging out with his mom around the house after work. She also has no plans to go out and do something outdoors.

I really want to put my foot down and say no this time, why does she want to sit in our home while he’s at work? I would even feel better if she went outside and did something with herself outside of our home. But her continuous presence for several weekdays genuinely disrupts my peace, comfort and work flow.

For additional context, my own mother has visited once in the past year and it was a holiday weekend.

We also do not have any children so it has nothing to do with her helping with the kids or visiting her grandchildren.

AITHA?