My wife and I had planned a long weekend getaway but did not have anyone to watch our teenage daughter who was not driving age. We did not want his grandmother babysitting and driving due to health issues. I was not going to go on the trip, then my single childless friend offered to stay with our daughter for the 4 days while we would be out of the country. Great! This was planned over 2 months in advance. However, the week before the trip, the friend told me that she had tickets to a huge football game and could not babysit over the weekend, only the first night. She asked if my mom and sister could stay with our daughter, not my ideal choice, hence why we asked my friend). It was so last minute I did not have other options. I didn’t tell my wife until the morning we were leaving the country that my friend “might” not be there the whole time. She was angry with me, and also angry with my friend, and felt that she was dissing her predetermined responsibility to help out as she had offered. She left my child after dropped off for school - and did not even tell her she would not be back for two nights. When she came back from oot and took my daughter to dinner, she threw me under the bus and told her that it was her dad’s fault that he did not communicate with her mom. I understand that I may be the A here for the delay in telling my wife, but I think my friend who bailed has to have some responsibility. My wife is not happy with her that she entrusted her with our most prized gift and she tossed her aside when she had a last minute better offer for a football game. My daughter ended up fine but stayed by herself since grandma lives down the street. However, it is just the lack of care about the commitment I am still having problems with.