I really need another opinion on this but i have a friend, female (18) , who we will call Emma for this story. I’ve known Emma for around four months now. We are only online friends but we are extremely close and i would not change anything about her for the world. She had a friend, who we will give a fake name for this story which will be David. David was extremely volatile and often would snap at the tiniest of incidents and cause Emma to lose friend very often to the point she had come to expect it. Since i met David, i didn’t like him but never wanted to come between him and her as i felt that as long as he didn’t ever attack me, i would be okay. I was wrong. A few days ago, Emma accidentally mentioned something that is a trigger for my trauma from my past and i had asked her not to do so, so naturally i got a little bit upset however i was not completely mad at her. She accidentally hurt me but at the end of the day, she apologised and we have moved on.

I found out in her discord server that she was going to tell David that she accidentally made me upset, but i decided to state that i would be more comfortable if he didn’t know what had happened because my trauma is something extremely personal to me. Then, David came in out of nowhere and told me to shut the fuck up, stating that not everything is about me and i shouldn’t try and make it about me. Now, baring in mind i have never spoken about my feelings or my own issues in this server so it hurt that the first time i try to talk about myself for once, i’m told to shut up and stop making “everything about myself”. This annoyed me. Emma immediately told David off but the damage was done.

After i told David to back off and to grow up, He instantly started to go off. He used the nickname “Aids” for me as my name is Ace, knowing i am a Queen Fan and that the disease is something that shouldn’t be joked about. Emma did tell him off for this but as i had said, the damage had been done. He started to get more aggressive, saying that no one cared about my feelings and that i shouldn’t be so sensitive. At this point, it was drawing attention and another person enters the story. We will call this person Jessica, who came in and told me to let it go. Now, one thing to know about me is that i am neurodivergent, and often need help with tones. I messaged Jessica privately asking her if she would mind not telling me let it go and instead ask what happened because it was a lot bigger in scale that she thought.

After that, she aggressively replied and told me that she was sorry if it “hurt my little feelings” but i need to stop being so dramatic. Things like this have been building up for weeks, and i knew i had to do something. Emma snapped at David, telling him that she would not lose another friend just because he decided that he didn’t like them. This argument happened in the discord server for everyone to see, and this server belongs to Emma by the way. David soon left the server, and began messaging both me and Emma privately. He proceeded to send me NFSW images of a draw character, then called me dramatic when i called them disgusting and childish. He completely shut down my feelings and started to make fun of my neurodivergent personality and it made me feel really invalidated.

After this, i explained to Emma that the way David flew off the handle was not okay and it was taking a toll on her mental health. I asked her if she thinks she should leave or at least have a break from their friendship and that’s what she wished for. I told David that Emma wanted a break from him, and he took it well (to my knowledge) however , he started posting things on his stories and things suggesting that he was going to do something stupid to himself as a way to guilt trip Emma into being his friend again. This didn’t sit right with me, and i told her that he is trying to manipulate her. This lead to her dropping him for now as a friend.

Since then, Emma has stopped talking to Both David and Jessica, And has insisted that it isn’t my fault that she lost them as friends but i cannot shake the guilt that i feel. Emma is an extremely kind person and she did not deserve a friend like that, i feel so awful and i do not know if i was in the wrong for having her drop them? AITA?