Hey guys, I had this girl I was dating for 4 months. We were friends for about 3 years, and we were pretty serious — but also very young to get married — so we were just waiting to get a little older before we could take that step.

About a month back, things went downhill. Her mum casually spied on her phone (which she had done once before, but that time it was just our Snapchat, so it was fine). This time, however, it was our Instagram, and things didn't go so well. She called me up as well as my parents. FYI, I'm a 22M and she's a 20F.

Her family is usually very controlling in terms of her life and freedom, to the point that she actually resents her mother — but she won’t stand up to her for some reason. Her dad is also the mother’s puppet, which I realized later on.

So, her mother forced us to cut each other off for about 3 weeks. I eventually reached out to her on another platform. And guess what? Her mother had told her absolute lies — saying that I gave up on her and didn’t want anything to do with her. Shockingly, she believed it, even though we had known each other for over 3 years.

Anyhow, we kept the talks going for about 3 days. Then her dad called her and asked if she was contacting me. After that, she got really sad and told me she'd be cutting off communication until she met her friend, through whom she'd call me.

Fast forward to that day: initially, she told her friend she didn’t want to call me, but then she changed her mind. She rushed through the call, told me to move on and stuff — and it felt like she was forced to say those things, even though she still liked me. She told me that if things were good, she still wanted to be with me, and that she’d reach out when her life was in check again. And we ended the call.

After a few days, I don’t know why, but I reached back out to her. This time, her mom caught me and proceeded to call me and abuse me — and my mom — for some reason. I told her she was a terrible mother and that she needed to fix herself, along with plenty more. Honestly, none of what I said was even 10 percent of what she had called me.

After a while, I got a call and a message from my ex saying that she wants nothing to do with me and to leave her alone — which is crazy, because she never even stood up for herself. And when I finally did — against her mentally abusive mom — I got the brunt of it.

So… AITA?