My 44/m husband and I 35/f have been together 4 years.

I asked him to put the fire out which made me feel uncomfortable and that I wouldn’t be able to sleep knowing that it was unattended next to our newly built (uninsured, yet to be handed over) home.

He said that I don’t trust him. That I don’t trust in his process to take care of the fire and let it burn through the night, even taking precautions to wetting the ground around it, clearing debris, it might rain excuse etc.

He likened to me asking him to extinguish the fire to asking in return “well then, I don’t feel comfortable you surfing before 10am and after 2pm because of sharks”.

Back story; surfing and growing up in Australia has been a HUGE part of my life, surfing pro amateur and being apart of the community since I was 12 years old. I told him that this hurts me to hear that he’s now saying this. That I will always now think that I’m doing “something wrong” by surfing outside of these times.

I feel so silly for sobbing about this.

What do I say to him to make him see that the safety of our house, the fire risk and unpredictability of a fire (and ZERO to do with not trusting him) is not really comparable to limiting my passion of surfing and through the threat of a shark attack?

Am I missing something or his POV?