So. I (34m) have been with my husband (35m) for over 8 years now, one year after we started dating we moved away so he didn’t have to deal with my family that much.

We came back a couple of years ago and had to stay with my mom and dad for a while, after that we bought a house and we live there.

We go visit my mom and dad maybe twice a week, they invite us over for dinner and we stay there approx 2 hours. My sister, brother in law , and a couple of niblings are there too. But my husband is always on the phone not paying much attention to anyone, he sometimes makes an effort but it’s often me trying to pull him in to the conversation.

We’ve talked about this and he even told me once he hated going to my parents home, his reasons being they are too loud and wrong about everything they say.

I must admit my family is loud, we laugh loud and talk over the other sometimes but they love us and they love my husband. We are gay so they were very openly supportive of me and my husband, they treat him like his is their own. They received us in their house when we moved back and they even gave us money when we bought our house. They have been nothing but great to me and my husband but he can’t seem to be able to like them.

And I don’t know what to do, to me he is being ungrateful and I’m covering for him on front of my family that he doesn’t want to be there.

What can I do?