My husband and I have our oldest son who will turn 5 this September, meaning that he will start elementary school this fall. Yesterday we were all attending a family event at my in laws and the topic of our son's school came up. Everything was alright and the conversation was light up untill the moment when we were asked where we enrolled our son.

Now I don't judge people for their choices, everybody is free to determine what kind of education is good for their kids, but my husband and I really want what it's best for our kids and we are able to invest into their future. Some of the main issues in our country when it comes to schools are: gender ideology being a topic for kids and the quality of the kids attending classes. I have heard so many stories from my friends with young kids being molested or doing things with other children who have way too much knowledge for their age, that it is really scarry. Children not receiving the proper care and supervision from their teachers that were found messing around and doing stuff in the bathrooms at only 4-5, children with behaviour issues bullying and beating up their peers with no consequences from the school because "all kids deserve to have access to education and we need to help them" blah blah. We don't want that for our kids. As bad as it may sound, we did not spend that much time and energy into raising and educating our kids just to send them into bad schools to mess them up.

So we enrolled our eldest into a private school that has very strict policies. The admission process is rough, all kids need to pass an interview and then the parents are also evaluated by the school board. The conditions are also very strict. All kids wear uniforms, devices are not allowed into the classrooms and the first major slip from the kid results in the kid being expelled. By major slip they mean acts of violence, sexual behaviour, cigarettes, vapes, drugs or alchool found in the kid's possession on school's premises (for older kids) and no gender ideology or propaganda. By checking the data, we saw that a very high % of kids attending this school were able to go to great universities both nationally and internationally so we were very pleased with what they are offering and our kid was accepted.

Main problem yesterday was my SIL who started blasting us for being bad examples for our kids. She accused husband and I of being homophobic, snobs and hateful towards poor kids who don't have the same possibilities as we do. My husband lost his cool and told her she has no idea what she is talking about since she doesn't have kids yet but when she will have them, we'll really want to see if she is sending her kids into a ghetto school or allowing the school to tell her kids they can be whatever they want regardless of their actual sex. She said as an ally she will have no problem for her kids to learn from a young age that people are different and deserve to be embraced. MIL and BIL (her husband) were triggered by this and everybody started fighting. As I see it she started drama out of nothing and that's on her.

Today SIL posted on Facebood without naming anyone about how disapointed she is to be surrounded by homophobes and other bs of hers. She also left me a message telling me she expects us to apologize for the drama from yesterday and for making her look bad in front of the family. I strongly believe we have nothing to apologize for and she put herself in a bad position by not keeping her bs to herself.