When I met my wife, we were both part of a mental health awareness and support social media group. We knew each other for about a year before deciding to try and date. I understood and understand the struggles of mental health better than most. My wife was good at hiding/managing her struggles at first. I worked with her when I could and let her walk her path on her own when need be. Our biggest struggle at first was the "I'm sorry" for everything conversations. She dealt with a lot of abuse and cheating in a previous marriage. She then would get in her feelings about every interaction I had with every female I'd met. Along with some other insecurity things. Or over-reacting to the way things happen. Saying I'm being aggressive.

She would say "I know you've not given me a reason to be/feel this way and I'm sorry for this" and I would start to make changes to try and assist with making it easier for her. Even after making major changes(i.e. making myself look super weird by being overly avoidant of women) it didn't help. I made the suggestion of talking to a professional about it. She went. Things got better. We were able to get past these issues.

Fast forward about year later. We have a kid on the way and get married. My wife feels she's not needing of therapy any longer and stops going.

I slowly saw regression. It started with my "being aggressive" again. We have cameras all throughout my house (fir other reasons, not living in a great neighborhood and keeping track of our teens)... after she calms down I show her the "aggression" on camera and she admits it's not the case. Then the jealousy and cheating comments made a return. Again unfounded and unwarranted... I am home all the time... again cameras all over.

If I mention the regression... then she gets ridiculously upset. She tells me I'm aggressive and I explained to her that being told over and over now for a year(2 years from when we first met 1 year of marriage) gets old and as someone who does everything to make sure I am the least bit aggressive with her is draining on my mental health. I won't even address the cheating nonsense.

To make sure things are always kept in reality and with all the facts... whenever we have these conversations... I bring up the cameras... I show her from an "outside angle" what it looks like. And a couple I've seen some that I could admit I was in the wrong...

We had one of these arguments last night. She told me she was going to remove the cameras... because I "trust them too much" and those cameras can't tell me her feelings. This morning she was up before me.. and sure as hell the cameras she could access were taken down. I confronted her and put the cameras back... she's upset now..

AITAH for using the cameras as a talking point? Or putting them back up?