AITAH or my husband. Recently my husband (40) and I (36) both male have been having some issues in the bedroom. His sex drive isn’t as high and he has been having a hard time keeping it up. I’m a bigger guy (the same size I have been our whole relationship) started taking it personal, wondering if it was me or the way I look. He reassured me it’s not and he isn’t sure what’s going on with him. I suggested performance anxiety and kind of chalked it up to that. I didn’t want to stress him out more so we weren’t intimate as much and I didn’t want to put pressure on him stressing him out more. Two months of this goes by and I start to wonder if there is perhaps someone else. So here is the AITAH comes in I search through his old phone and find that he has been subscribing to at least 12 guys onlyfans accounts all of which are super fit hunky guys. This is upsetting because I think this has more to do with the way I look now. There is lots of free porn out there but he is choosing to pay to see these guys. Obviously we need to have a conversation about this but I want to know who is more in the wrong me from snooping or him for subscribing?

Edit. I asked him early on in our relationship if he has ever subscribed to anyone’s onlyfans and he said he did before but doesn’t now, but I’m finding out now that is a lie.