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We had the funeral, and it didn't really go well.

Honestly, against my better judgment, I decided to let AP know about, on the condition that he would promise me to stay away from my kids and I, and not make a scene. I told him he needed to stay away from everyone and not let himself be known. No one really wanted him there.

The funeral was peaceful at first. I didn't give any sort of eulogy. I really couldn't bring myself to. Both my kids did, and so did my wife's sister and parents.

When things were dying down, my daughter asked if she could stay with her mom's gravestone for a bit. I, of course, told her it's ok. She asked me to come with her, which I did, I asked my son if he wanted to come with us, he said he wanted to stay with grandpa (my mom's dad) for a bit.

That's when things went wrong. My wife's sister came to get me, and my wife's parents were upset when they saw AP. I'm not really sure what happened, but my wife's dad was calling him out. AP tried to argue back. I stepped in and refused the situation. I told AP to get out. He did.

My wife's parents were incredibly upset with me for letting AP into the funeral. My son was clearly shaken by this. My daughter thankfully didn't catch any of this, but I think she is also upset by this. I regret letting AP know. I don't know when my wife's parents, which i consider family, will talk to me again. My son seems to be disappointed in me. Honestly, my wife's sister has been the only one who's been supportive.

It was stupid. It was just stupid.

Edit: Something that kept coming up. AP means affair partner. Sorry, I have been spending a lot of time in online spaces dealing with my wife's betrayal. These kinds of terms just kind of stuck with me.