So I (15f) and my ex gf (14f) broke up back in December of 2024. A month before we broke up for good she wanted to break up on thanksgiving day. I was at my grandmothers house when she texted me and was having dinner(I don’t get good service up there). The relationship was pretty toxic with her not responding for hours or just leaving me on read. If we did call she would always make an excuse to hang up. She also knew about my attachment issues and how I get attached to people really quick and did not care at all about it. That is why I cried because I have known her for some time before we even started dating or speaking of dating. A few weeks later I asked her if she would still be ok with me figuring out if I was polyamorous or not and she said yeah that it was ok. Then she proceeded to go on and talk to her friends and said I was cheating on her when she gave me the go ahead to go and date a specific person. She mostly got mad about it when I went over to their house when I had asked her before if I could. Then she proceeded to make up stories to her friends and make a group chat about me which I had friends in so I figured out about everything she was saying. She got mad at me going over to the persons house because we were cuddling in their bed and she never set any boundaries down for it. Anyways to go back to the thanksgiving issue she wanted to break up on thanksgiving but I had to try to make her stay which she did all I said to have her stay for a bit longer was something along the lines of “why on thanksgiving can you give it a few more days or even a few more weeks.” Her response to that was “sure”. At that point I was already falling out of love with her since like maybe September November around that area because I had a crush on my now girlfriend(I tried to hide that by talking shit about my now gf). Since she would get mad about me having a crush on anyone else if it wasn’t her. When December rolled around I completely stopped having feelings for her in total so I broke up with her and yes it was after Christmas I’m not as much as an asshole as her and wouldn’t do it before a holiday or on. I was still “with” the person that I was talking to when I was dating her. I say “with” since we were never in a relationship. She then had one of her friends text me and quite literally harass me. A few months later after we broke up she started dating my now girlfriend who looks almost exactly like me and acts exactly like me. Like we are almost identical in every way(my now gf only dated her for a week to get closer to me since I’m petty). But was I the asshole?