Using a throw away

I (M26) am considering splitting with my gf (F24). We have been seeing each other for about 3 months now. A mutual friend introduced us and we hit it off well. She has communication issues and some baggage from past relationships, but otherwise i think things had been going well until last month when she discovered she was pregnant.

I was initially against keeping the pregnancy for a variety of reasons (we are both sorta broke, early in our careers, she has been raising siblings her whole life and hasnt really had any freedom, we are still early in our relationship and we haven’t gotten to a point where we can say we love each other). I voiced my concern honestly to her, and told her i was not happy about the situation but i would support her and especially the child if she decides to keep it. We sort of had a quick conversation about it the day she found out and then she kept me at a distance while she figured things out on her own.

A few days later she reaches out to me and says she’s keeping it. Im not particularly happy about the result, but i was more-so upset that she didn’t really discuss it with me and just got there on her own. I tried explaining my points but she felt i was pressuring her into my choice instead, which while that was not my intention i can understand why she felt that way. She kept me at a distance again until we met up. I apologized and reiterated that i did not mean to pressure her and will do my part to step up as a parent.

However, since then our romance has all but died. She is still terrible at communicating anything with me, often leaving me in the dark for a day or two at a time. When we do go out for a date she does not have the same enthusiasm as before and it seems like she isn’t really interested in maintaining the relationship. My first instinct would be to communicate with her about this but as mentioned she is terrible at communicating. Having a serious conversation with her is difficult, and she tends to get quiet and anxious instead of sharing her feelings. I think a lot of this has to do with the baggage she has from before, but I can’t really do anything about that.

But ultimately, im just not as interested anymore. Our relationship isn’t really nice for me, she ghosts me, and isnt very considerate of me or my feelings. Ive been trying to power through for the sake of building a family with her, but ive been considering coparenting as friends instead.

I am just torn between giving our family a shot and powering through this difficult time or accepting that a relationship between us isn’t feasible to give us both more time to plan where we go with this pregnancy/coparenting. I feel like an asshole either way, and i really want to do what is best for her, myself, and our child. But mostly for the kid. None of this is their fault, and I want them to have the best chance possible at a good life. To be honest i was pretty worried initially, but since accepting that this is what’s going to happen, i just want to make the best choice i can for their sake.

WIBTA for breaking up with my pregnant girlfriend?

Edit: Wanted to add that she was taking birth control pills which we had believed to be adequate protection. I won’t deny we were foolish to believe that was enough but wanted to add this to clarify we weren’t being completely reckless

Edit: We have no idea how far along she is, she is going in for her first ultrasound this week