This is incredibly rough for me at the moment and I’m just looking for some other voices to weigh in on this.

So we’ve been together for little over 10 years and married for half of that. It has NOT been smooth sailing, I’ve cheated, I’ve had money problems, I’ve had issues with food that have been detrimental to the relationship but she’s always helped me to get better. Helped me to seek therapy and I feel it has been a massive help. However in this therapy I’m discovering so much more about myself and I’ve come to realise that monogamy doesn’t alight with my core beliefs and I feel that I’ve made a mistake aligning myself with the church and one person for the rest of my life.

My wife has only ever been with me, in the biblical sense, and as such a don’t feel she’s actually experienced as much of life as I feel she could have.

After I spectacularly blew up our relationship late last year in suggesting that we out to open up the relationship we have resolved ourselves to enjoy this year to the max with more events, festivals, outings. But I am still seriously struggling with the fact that I don’t agree with the relationship structure I entered into 10 years ago and essentially re-affirmed in a church 5 years ago.

I know that I can’t live my life hoping that she’ll come round to my way of thinking or, worse yet, I have a repeat of displaying destructive behaviour to sour the well which will inevitably cause a breakdown between us.

So, yeah, WIBTA for considering a divorce with my wife because I don’t believe that monogamy is the right path.