i need some advice. ever since we all graduated high school, my friends (all of us are around 19-22 years old now) have really really really gotten into edibles and smoking and vaping.

we all hang out very often (at least once or twice a week) and i am the only one who seems to never have touched any substances (except for trying it once and then never again.) almost every single time, my friends already show up high when we hang out or want to get high. it can get really frustrating because sometimes they don't clear it with me beforehand if i'm okay with being the sober one. they offer me some, but i always decline.

right now, we are planning on hanging out soon to watch a movie. two of my friends messaged me and we discussed plans. then, one of my friends says something along the lines of "did you wanna take a gummy too?" to me, referencing the gummy edibles they usually default to.

they hadn't even MENTIONED wanting to get high for the movie before that sentence. it made me feel really shitty that i'm not being considered, and that taking edibles seems to be a normal everyday thing that they just pop in their mouths whenever they want or whenever we see each other.

obviously i know nothing about edibles but i hope they understand where i'm coming from if i ask them to LET ME KNOW BEFOREHAND and i feel like that's not a huge ask.

would i be the asshole to ask them to limit their drug use around me

if my friends find do this, i didn't know who else to talk to this about so sorry i had to bring it to reddit