Okay, title sounds a lil bad, however, I can explain.

I’m 17F. I’ve got a group of friends who I’ve had since freshman year. They’ve been incredible and honestly I am grateful to even had the experience of being their friend. I won’t lie, between all the weird or bad moments, we’ve had some good times.

But lately things have been off. I first noticed it when they began mentioning stories that I had never heard of. It’s one of those situations where you’re the only one like “wait what” whenever something is mentioned. I didn’t try to make a big deal of it. Miscommunications happen. Dynamics happen where people trust others more. No biggie.

But then I started realizing MORE little things that had been done to me or were being done to me:

Hanging out without mentioning an invite to me, making me feel excluded or weird for my culture/race (I’m the only black/afro latin person in the group), befriending people who’ve literally said racist shit to or about me then apologizing for it after the fact… but still doing it. Posting everyone but me in their socials when they do little friend photo dumps. Theres more things have happened or I’ve been tolerating that I simply don’t want to!

My mother and other friend suggest I say something but would it be wrong of me to just… not?! Frankly, I’ve been extremely exhausted balancing transitioning to college, work, and family. It just feels like they’re beginning to slowly distance themselves and I’m getting to a point of mentally doing the same. I’ve already begun to accept that what I thought our friendship was is not what it was.. and thats ok!

WIBTAH for simply not saying anything? I understand wanting to go confront to them, but I feel like I’ve done that so much throughout our friendship with so many different things. I simply don’t feel like doing it again.