The last few months she has been absolutely out of control. She doesn't listen to a word anyone says, she's failing classes, she's being defiant at school, she's being an absolute terror.

She's hitting her sisters and teasing them and belittling them. Like she will literally just punch her little sister and when they cry she's like "ohh wah wah wah cry like the wittle baby that you are!" And when we're like "dude you can't hit her and then make fun of her for crying" she goes "well I really don't care. I don't even like her" and shrugs.

She's in therapy. Will not say a word to the therapist. We've changed therapists and she just refuses to talk or say anything. She just insists on being mean as often as possible.

Today they don't have school so we're cleaning the house for Easter because we host at our house. Asked her to unload the dishwasher for me. I'm recovering from surgery and I can't stand up for very long so I need some help. I am not joking when I say every time I turn my head, she's suddenly outside playing with sticks. And I call her inside and she's like "sorry I forgot" like no you did not girl. You just don't want to do it. After the third time I told her to come back in and finish she said "IM NOT YOUR SLAVE!!!"

She said the average 12yr old only does 5 chores a week and she has to do 14 (cause she really only has 2 daily chores) and I was like what on earth are you talking about? She swears other kids her age only do one chore a day and none on the weekends. She has no source for this information, but insists that we've subjected her to a lifetime of slavery because she has 2 chores to do every day plus a 3rd on Saturdays (her bedroom).

Dad and I have tried everything with her. Taking things away, rewarding good behavior, positive talk, nothing makes an ounce of difference with her. If we're like "thanks for cleaning the dishes, I really appreciate it!" She goes "whatever you're just too lazy to do it yourselves. That's why you had kids in the first place." If she doesn't do them and we take away video games she's like "eh, I didn't feel like playing anymore anyways."

I don't think she believes in the Easter bunny anymore but I told her she'll be lucky to get a basket. She said "yeah right, you get an Easter basket whether you're good or not." So now I'm thinking no basket this year. Unfortunately I already bought all the stuff so maybe she can like, earn it back over time?

It feels so mean but also like, she's 12. Shes gonna throw a fat ass tantrum. I know she will. She'll probably ruin Easter and try to steal her sisters things from their baskets. But I cannot do this with her anymore.

Does that make me the asshole?