I (F23) have been good friends with this guy (M21) for a year and a half. We see each other almost daily at uni and grew quite close. We grab drinks together, play games, have had deep talks and been openly vulnerable to each other. He’s a cool dude, and I don’t have anything to really say against him. I believe he considers me one of his closest friends.

Next year, there’s a high chance we won’t be in the same school, and I already know that when that time will come I won’t put too much effort into maintaining our friendship. We’ve had our good times and I wish him nothing but the best, yet I don’t really care if we grow apart. I would be happy to grab a drink with him every few months/years or so, but if that doesn’t happen that’s fine with me.

Is this normal? I feel like this isn’t how close friends should feel like. I fear I’m being a shitty friend. The worst part is that I believe he would definitely try to keep our friendship going. I can’t help but wonder if something’s wrong with me.

It’s not like I don’t care about him at all. When he had hard times I was worried about him and tried to help and support him as best as I could. Yet I can’t help but think it’s perfectly fine if we grow apart, without a hint of sadness.

AITAH?

For clarification, there’s nothing romantic or sexual between us. I have a partner, he’s single.