So, I (18f) am friends with John (24m) for about 2 years. After 1 month of getting to know each other he itroduced me to his friends. For about 6 month everything was fun, but at 8th of march 2024 i've cut contact with him. He liked that tom hardy from film legend meme where this character stands with flowers. Always seeing it, i decided to watch the film. Well that character in the meme r-worded his wife (for me it is a big fear) and after watching it, i said so right away and asked him to not send me that meme, to which he agreed. 2 weeks later on 8th of march he sends that meme with congratulatins for the day. I was upset. Called him right away, asked why he send that trash, started explaining that i dont want to see that character and whatever. His response? Dude starts to justify himself. No apologies. Nothing. At that point i was raging and unfortunatly badmouthing him (more as protecting myself). He then starts to get angry and i leave the call. For a few days he constantly texted me (i think he send over 300 messages) and on second day i blocked him. We had no contact for half a year and on my birthday he texted me apologising and congratulating me for bday. I was cautious but accepted his apologies, and we've been talking since.

So what happend the other week. All our friend group have been playing gta rp and two of the guys have been banned for no apperent reason by a female modder. They raged and someone i think Jeremy(26m) started to say woman moment. I was dumbfounded, straight away asked to cut that shi_ and never say it, cause its disrespectfull ah, said that, yes, maybe this modder is unreasonable, but dont you say that all the women are like this (cause i believe is what this "joke" doing, just making more awful stereotypes about women). They listened but just after 10 minutes Jeremy started again (at this time John logged off to get some sleep) and i went ballistic started to call him dumb misogynist and to cut the crap. Then he angrily said that i shoud've said to them that i had "THIS STUPID TRIGGERS" (like what the hell??). He calls every woman dumb and stereotypes them and then gets angry when called out on that. I said that and he then said to me TO KNOW MY F-ING PLACE. WTH. I went balls out calling him some nasty names, then he asked if i was a femenist, to which i responded positivly ( i think that all women are femenists, just because you wear PANTS, and wont tolerate disrespect) then asked if that was a problem, to which i got a "i see" and a laugh from other member of that call (will call him james). Furios i logged off, because for ten minutes nobody said a word.

Next day i texted John how much this situation caused me pain, cause before that they were cool and kind friends. Said how i was angry and sad at the same moment. This man started to justify them:))))) said that they had female friends that joked about woman moment too, and for them it was funny (hahaha) (how much you need to hate yourself to find this shi_ funny??) then asked if thought of all of them as sexists, that he saved girls from drunk people, that james a few month ago got stabbed because he saved girl from raPper, and that i said that they were misogynists was hUrTfuL to them (i still think that it is cool that they saved women) but i just don't understand why joke about woman moment itis not even funny? We then started to talk about how his female friend was a feminist and that she left the organisation because it was "crazy". He told me that femenism had hurt him and james at some point (the first tim ei heard it from him) and said " well i know that you are a femenist, BUT my opinion of you had't changed" (wth does this even mean). After i saw that he started to jusify them, i just went with stop i don't want to talk about it, but he stopped only after half an hour explaining to me the situation(like i needed that, i get what happened). I have been no contact for a day and he started to spam me memes and posts and the tops it off by saying "nOw I See WhEre our frIendSHip lies For YoU" (what a gaslighting piece of sh__!). I read but not answered was kinda scared for some reason.

At the end of the day he sends me a long text how guys have been asking where i was, was i upset? was i offended? (james always asking this question in a way that sets me off, in this ridiculind voice i dunno) and that john said to them to let me cool off (???), how he is angry that "i dont seem to give a shi_" that i dont have a solution to the situation (how can i come up with solution when no one has contacted with me besides him??) and that he haven't done anything to me and ithat he doesn't understand why i am behaving like that(??) that he didnt discourage me from "my beliefs", and said that am i "suprised that OH GOD not all people can have same views??? but i respect you, but you respecting me is a big question now. i am offended." (I HAVEN'T TALKED TO THIS GUY FOR ONE DAY AND HE SAYS THIS??? WTH)

this is where i am now. our friend group consist of 12 people, not only these three. i dont know what to do. i defenetly dont wanna be friends with john that manipelating and gaslighting prick, but what do i do whith others? i am in pieces right now, cant do anything, but to think about this. send help...please....... or majima.................................... sorry for not redacting though...