Last year i got 100 dollars for my birthday so i decided it would be fun if i split it with Amelia (fake name), and my dad could take us to go shopping. We just got a couple things each and it went fine. Shes always been a bit mean and stingy with her kindness, refusing to do small favors, making rude comments even after ive told her that it pisses me off, she always said "i need to learn how to take a joke", or straight up giving me the silent treatment to guilt trip me whenever i do the slightest thing that sets her off. Stuff like, talking to one of my other friends, or not listening to her when she gets in one of her moods. Shes never been a gift giver, which is fine, i dont expect anything anyways, but thats never stopped me from getting her stuff here and there. Her birthday is coming up so id been in the process of finding her a gift. I ended up buying her two posters from her favorite bands and a dr pepper scented candle. Its not much but i knew she would like them. I kept the stuff in my room and i was going to give them to her on her birthday, but yesterday we got into a fight at school. She kept touching me and jabbing me in the side while i was trying to pay attention, i told her to stop a couple times but she kept doing it, even though she knows im uncomfortable with physical touch, and after a while i told her to "back off". She did for a bit but after a while she asked if she could have a sip of my water. I told her no, just because i was already in a bad mood from her constant annoying and nagging. She basically got pissed off and started saying stuff about, how i never do anything for her and all she wants is a sip of water. (As if i dont let her use my things, buy her stuff, give her advice, listen to her vent and a bunch if other things, all stuff shes never done for me.) I told her that "i do stuff for her all the time but shes too, up her own ass to notice". She wanted an example so i brought up my birthday money, (not the best example but it was just the first thing that popped up into my mind). It set her off and she told me that "she never asked me to do that, so i cant hold it against her and that it doesnt count". Shes right, of course, but it was obvious she probably never even appreciated it. She ended up giving me the silent treatment the rest of the day. And now the next day, im contemplating sending her gifts back. Im scared that if i do anything else for her that shes going to use it as an excuse to treat me badly, just because she never "asked for it". So would i be the AH if i send her gifts back?