I (27F) was in a relationship with my boyfriend (28M) for just over two years. He’s generally a good person, but over the past few months, I started feeling increasingly neglected, which led to me ending things recently.

At first, everything felt great, he was caring, made time for me, and was consistent with communication. But slowly, he started becoming distant, especially when work or his friends were involved. Even during less busy times, he rarely initiated conversations or made plans. I often found myself putting in all the effort, constantly seeking reassurance, and feeling like I wasn’t a priority.

Last year, we talked seriously about getting married, but because of intercaste issues, his family wasn’t supportive. He broke up with me, saying he didn’t want to go against them. I was really hurt by that. However, four months later, he came back asking for another chance and promised that he’d stand up for us this time. I decided to give it another shot.

The same issues slowly crept back in, especially around his cousin, Su. My boyfriend would often delay or cancel our plans to hang out with Su or go to his office. There were times he told me he was busy with work but later admitted he had been with Su. It left me feeling pushed aside.

I only met Su’s wife, Sh, once, so I don’t know how she feels about me. But recently, I found out that Su himself doesn’t like me anymore, even though he used to be really warm and friendly earlier. Since then, I’ve felt even more excluded. My boyfriend stopped including me in anything related to them, like setting up their new office. He spends a lot of time there now but never invited me or even mentioned it. When I brought this up, he brushed it off and said I was overthinking.

The final straw was a staycation we had been planning for a while. He promised multiple times that he wouldn’t cancel. I kept checking in, and he always said we’d go ahead with it. But on the day we were supposed to book the hotel, he didn’t talk to me at all, he was out with Su and Sh. That night, when I finally reached out, he casually said, “We’re planning a trip tomorrow,” and then stopped replying altogether.

I ended up calling and texting him around 40 times that night, desperately trying to talk and understand what was going on, but he ignored every single one. I was emotionally exhausted and heartbroken. So I sent him a long message explaining everything I felt, how drained and unappreciated I was, how I couldn’t keep being the only one trying, and told him I was done. It was a breakup message.

The next morning, he left that message on seen and hasn’t responded since.

What’s confusing is that I had asked him many times before if he still wanted to be in this relationship or if he felt too busy, and he always reassured me that he wanted to be with me, even that same morning. So why leave me on seen now?

TL;DR: I was in a 2-year relationship where I felt increasingly sidelined. My boyfriend consistently prioritized work and friends, canceled our plans (likely to go on a trip with them), and excluded me from key parts of his life. After one final letdown, I called and texted him nearly 40 times trying to talk. When I finally sent him a breakup message, he left it on seen and never replied. Did I overreact? AITAH? And why do you think he left me on seen?