Thanks for reading! Just recently, my ex and I went our separate ways and I want to clarity aa to what you would do in a situation or what to think about for my next relationship- We broke up last week. Several years when we first lived together, my experience and expectations were not what I thought it would be..I was rather secure and was pushed into an anxious attachment person. The more and more I needed him, the more and more he pushed away. we broke up and I moved away. For 1.5 I was in therapy and learning how being anxious ruined our relationship, I relearned how to be, how to communicate, how to handle a avoidant personality and how to love someone like that. I seen a lot of my brokenness on him and I wanted to cling to him because he was self safe to me. We were planning on having a child together but after we broke up, I grieved that process and decided I was not going to have children after. We had mended the relationship several times but they all ended within 3-4 months of reconnecting. Recently, we decided to rekindle and “start over” He is someone who wants to lead and I asked him to do that. I asked if he can still let me know the decision and or ask for my input as well. I didn’t question him on why but I wanted to know the details about what was happening… or if something didn’t sound like a good idea, I would tell him and I believe he thought I didn’t want him to lead me or us. Over valentines, he bought me flowers, shoes and candy and sent a couple hundred dollars to get something nice for myself . Perviously, he was not in a financial place to buy gifts for me and I was very understanding. So getting some nice gifts, were super meaningful and awesome. He had always mentioned us living back with him ASAP and I was looking into it, looking for jobs, applying, looking at schools for my daughter, about to remove my birth control and looking into wedding destinations.. because he was so adamant about us living together again, I was hopeful. He was approved for a $12,000 auto loan and purchased a motorcycle. I did give him slight grief about that because I said, you talk about us living with you everyday and now that you have been approved for $, you are not willing to use it to help us move? I know it’s an auto loan but in my head, if you can get approved for an auto loan, you can get approved for a personal loan? (Please correct me if I’m wrong) He was upset about that because he said that’s not how it works and I picked my battle and let it as is. When we broke up, he said I gave him slake about purchases but loved getting gifts from him… it was valentines and “just because “ gifts, so yes I did accept, plus I felt that it was not big purchases as in $500-$1000, so I’m not going to be upset with a couple hundred for valentines or a just because gift.. he wanted to spend $500 for a custom paint job which I don’t give him grief either because I knew it was what he wanted. When I last spoke with him, I asked him “are you lying on your time card again” he did not like that at all and said I’m condescending and he doesn’t like it and broke up with me because it made me remember my aggressiveness way back when. I was upset he didn’t want to learn how to cook and after going 50/50 and cleaning, cooking, he would put the dishes in the dish washer and thought he did everything in the house, which made me annoyed. Anyways, would you be able to give me any advice on how to handle this situation in the future or if I get into another relationship, should I stay more quiet? Should I not provide any insight on my thoughts just to keep the peace? Should I deny gifts just in case they throw it back? (No right?) I have watched how I speak to him and use words that work to help our relationship.. idk I’m confused