Soooooo, I get married in June. I have 2 bridesmaid (my sister and a close friend of mine). My sister and I got into an argument earlier and she revealed that she feels like I'm controlling and a bridezilla. She's unhappy that I want her and the other bridesmaid to wear a French manicure, but she wants to wear 4 inch colorful nails. A few months ago when were deciding on dresses, she was unhappy with the fact that I wanted her to wear cream for the wedding. She said "that would show off my rolls" and that she wouldn't feel comfortable in it-- we went with a different color dress. She also told my fiance should go f*** himself, then later said she was joking. Also said she has "concerns" about my wedding. I later asked what her concerns were and she didn't answer.

After alllll of that, she proceeds to ask if she can stay in our apartment because she can't afford a hotel and rental car. I let her know, NO. We don't want anyone in our apartment close to the wedding and I don't want her to rely on me for transportation because I will be busy doing things. I firmly said no. She then says she is not able to come because she has debt and owes the IRS $2000 lmao. I asked was she sure and she said yes. She blamed me because I knew she was "depending on me" and that she didn't have any money. Mind you, she's had plenty of notice. I think she is bad with money and just didn't prioritize my wedding costs. I've paid for her shoes , her dress, and makeup (as a good bride does).

20 minutes later she messages me and says she can come and that she is sorry. I've gotten a few second opinions and they've all said that it wouldn't be fair to myself to have my sister as a bridesmaid. AITAH for considering taking her out of the wedding and just having her show as a guest?