I know I might sound ungrateful, but I’m really struggling with this.

My 45th birthday is coming up, and I accidentally found out what my husband is getting me. Years ago, when we were newlyweds, he had this sports car that he was obsessed with. It was a two-seater, expensive to maintain, and it honestly caused more stress than joy. He crashed it once and ended up in the hospital, and even after it was repaired, it got stolen. Then came legal battles, debt, and a lot of fights. It was a dark period in our relationship.

Eventually, he sold the car, and I was relieved. I thought we had moved on from that phase.

But now, almost 20 years later, he managed to find the exact same model and bought it—as a gift for me. He knows how much pain that car represents for me. I don’t drive sports cars, and I definitely don’t want that one back in our lives.

I feel like this is more about him than me, and I don’t know how to react. Do I fake excitement? Do I tell him the truth and risk hurting his feelings? I just feel disappointed, even though I know he thinks he’s doing something special.

Does that make me the bad guy?