I (late 30s) have been living at my parents home for almost a year after being laid off. I’ve been applying for jobs but I haven’t gotten any interview requests.

I have 7 siblings and we recently loss my father to cancer. During his treatment, I was the only child there for help with his needs. He never asked for the assistance but it was needed. I drove to most of the appointments and surgeries he required.

I did all of this while working a face paced detail oriented full time remote job and battling minor heath issues. When my parents needed help, I would drop everything and stay at their home for months on end while my siblings took on easy tasks like texting to check in or coming for one random appointment when I was too sick to cover it.

I traveled back and forth between my parents home and mine. I would stay with them for months on end until my father passed away. Needless to say, I took it pretty hard and battled a bit of depression after. I handled all of the probate, no one really helped.

When I was the helper, everyone had no issue with me staying at my parents and sacrificing my time for months on end. It was ok for me to be at home. It was ok for me to make the sacrifice. No one ever said I needed to leave. It wasn’t an issue when I was pulling everyone’s weight.

Now, I was laid off from my job. I’ve had one family member tell me outright I should not be at my parents because my mom needs her space. “You need to leave by whatever date you set. You should not be in her house. Your mother doesn’t want you there.” They have said it more than once. I also have siblings who told me the same but not as harsh. I cry about it. I do understand she needs her space and I don’t discount that but we were always told if we needed to come home we could. I’ve never abused this. This is my first time.

The issue is, I am unemployed and move home as a result. I have savings but I don’t want to risk leaving and not finding a job. I’m applying daily.

Also, I drive my mom to all of her doctor’s appointments and anywhere she needs to go. I did this when my dad was ill too. No one else does it.

Ttdl

AITA for planning to move out and going no contact after being told my mom needs her space?

AITA for being hurt that my ungrateful family doesn’t appreciate my contributions?