Long story short:

My daughter had an 8th birthday party coming up and I told her to invite a few friends in her class. My ex insisted I’d not do that because it’ll cause issues within the class and the kids who didn’t get invited would feel bad, but my daughter did it anyway. There is this one girl in her class we don’t like that my daughter did not invite. My daughter said “it’s because my mom doesn’t like you” (the uninvited girl accused an older boy of touching her. Turned out to be a false story. We said just stay away) the little girl got upset and told her mom. Her mom then confronted me about it through text, asking for clarification about why her daughter didn’t get invited and why my daughter said what she said.

Now I’m not good with confrontation, I freeze and I panic. I never know what to say. My communication is bad. I called my boyfriend to tell him about it and ask him for help. He said “apologize about what your daughter said and explain the situation about how we’re limited on how many to invite. But don’t go into detail about how we don’t feel comfortable around her daughter because of what she did). I typed up a rough draft of what to say and sent it to my boyfriend. He read it, said to rewrite it because it wasn’t that good. I told him to do it then for me and he refused. He said it’s a good time for me to learn how to communicate and confront people because I’m always avoiding difficult conversations and situations. I told him he wasn’t any help and I said “you know what? Since you don’t want to do it for me, then don’t talk to me all day. I’m just going to ignore you.” He got very angry with me, saying I’m punishing him for something that I need to take responsibility for and I can’t rely on him to do everything exactly for me. I do have difficulty with follow through. AITAH?