I (M38) have a wife (31), and a daughter (10) who are my entire world. It is relevant to mention that my wife is black and I am white.

My daughter is going through this whole fairytale romance thing, loves Disney princess movies, etc. So yesterday she asks “daddy what made you marry mommy?”. I, trying to be funny, said “because daddy really likes chocolate”.

It’s kind of a running joke in our family how addicted to chocolate I am and it made her giggle. My wife on the other hand gave me a dirty look. I did tell my daughter the ACTUAL reason I married her: she lights up a room, she’s kind, super smart, ridiculously beautiful, and my best friend in the whole world. But the damage had already been done and my wife still seemed pissed off later that night after we put our girl to bed.

Truthfully, I got defensive about it and said I was just trying to be silly and it’s not like I just left it at that, I did actually say something heartfelt after. Well she scoffs at me and says I’m going to give our daughter a weird complex about race, and that she hates her skin tone being compared to food (fair).

Well I apologized because obviously this was something hurtful to her, but I feel like my comment was relatively innocent and kinda cute. It made my daughter giggle and I really don’t think this is going to be an interaction that will affect her sense of self later in life. Idunno, AITA?