TL;DR A few weeks after I miscarried, I found out that my ex asked another woman (K) on a date just 3 hours after I sent him a picture of my positive pregnancy test. Later, 9 different women told me he was on Tinder while I was pregnant—some of that time, he was even staying at my apartment. He admitted to asking K out, but denied being on Tinder (why would 9 women all lie about that?). When I confronted him, he tried to gaslight me. When that didn’t work, he screamed at me, called me names, and accused me of faking the pregnancy to everyone—after I had miscarried weeks prior. Then he blocked me. When someone else reached out to get my stuff back, he told her I was "crazy" and not to listen to me. I ended up sending screenshots whenever I'd ask for my stuff back showing the text where I sent him the positive pregnancy test and the text of him asking K out 3 hours later—because I was afraid I’d be ignored otherwise. He was eventually sent medical documentation of the pregnancy. He still called me "crazy" for asking one of his friends for my stuff back, because she was unknowingly at a funeral at the time. I didn’t know she was at a funeral, but I didn't even address it because I hadn’t slept in over a day when I was on the phone call.

He had taken me engagement ring shopping 6 weeks prior to us finding out I was pregnant. We had briefly broken up 12 hours prior to finding out that I was pregnant because he claimed that he wanted to "work on building a business" and wouldn't have time to see me because we were long distance. He said that we would reconnect once his business was set up. We got back together and he wrote an entire apology letter to me which did not mention his interest in other women, nor did he ever admit to it when I asked. He lied about all of this for months.

The week prior to the confrontation abt K, I found out he still had nudes of another girl saved in his phone that he was talking to regularly. He said she was his "friend from tinder that he met many years ago on the app." He screamed in my face and put his hands over my mouth. I avoided seeing him in person after this, but I later got a message from another woman saying he had asked her out 3 hours after I showed him my initial positive pregnancy test.

I confronted him over the phone about the other woman he asked on a date 3 hours after he saw the positive pregnancy test. He tried to gaslight me by saying that he "only asked her out to lunch as a friend." When I told him I had screenshots of the actual messages, he screamed at me, told me "this is why I didn't tell you bc you'd react like this!", called me names, accused me of faking my pregnancy, and blocked me. Then he went around telling everyone I faked being pregnant after his other ex asked him for my stuff back (because he blocked me). I tried to ask his family and friends for my stuff back to no avail. I sent them them text message evidence of me showing him the positive test and him asking another woman out 3 hours later bc he was going around saying "she's crazy! don't listen to her!" I ended up having to send a cease and desist through an attorney.

I continued to hear about his defamation for months even after the cease and desist, so I asked my doctor's office to send him my health records via email. He had the nerve to say "Assuming what you say is true I'm sorry for my part in it" and said he didn't want to speak to me. I called him because I was tired of being iced out for months during medical complications from a pregnancy he helped create. He told me that he didn't tell everyone I faked it and instead said he "didn't know for sure." I was told by his friends that this was not true. Then he said he "never really doubted the pregnancy and just wanted an excuse to breakup" even though I was trying to break up with him. He told me that he was mad and I was "being crazy" because I messaged one of his friends asking for my stuff back while she was at a funeral?? I had no idea she was at a funeral, but I never responded to him saying that bc I hadn't slept in over a day prior to that phone call. It was all very confusing. He said he'd call me later and maybe unblock me.

A few days later I asked him if he could call the doctors office to confirm because I was tired of going back and forth about whether or not it happened. He said "There is no back and forth, I honestly do not care. I'm sorry you have gone through all of this but it's not something I talk about and it's not something I have the time nor do I feel the need to do. I'm reblocking this number as I do not feel we should keep talking. Please do not contact me in the future as I do not have any interest in talking to you going forward. I wish you the best."

AITA for texting his friend and asking for my stuff back while she was at a funeral that I didn't know about? AITA for setting the record straight while he was defaming me and I was worried they'd ignore me if I didn't provide evidence in order to get my belongings back?