I am recently unemployed due to choosing to pursue my studies and now that I have finished my degree, I have started the job hunt. My husband and I have recently moved out (1month ago) from living with my family (we are from a community that lives with extended family) and he is currently supporting us financially. Due to being a teacher, my husband usually makes 4 to 5 times my salary and has previously expressed that I should be free to ask him for money whenever I need. Now, because I am not working, I casually mentioned to my husband that I need some money to shop for some new bras, because they are quite expensive. I had contemplated using my savings, but I decided that since it would be an expense that we could both enjoy, why not ask him? He seemed to respond in an evasive manner. He stated "Sure, but you can also use your own money. I want you to be independent and be able to contribute. Then you can buy what you want with your own money." I was a little taken aback and hurt. Yes, I can use my own money, but when I was working my husband told me that I could ask him whenever I needed money. Now that I am unemployed he is asking me to use my own money. It feels like he just wanted to feel good about himself when offering to buy me things when I didn't need him to. Now that I do, his views have changed. It's not that I am trying to be a gold digger and just use him for his money. I have been dipping into my savings to buy us dinners here and there, treating him. As he was the bigger earner, he of course was of course paying for more outings and groceries. I tried to have a conversation about this, trying to ask if he resents being the sole earner at the moment and what has changed his views on being generous with his money. The result was a blow up fight where he just listed ALL the things he spends money on (not taking into consideration what I spend for) and how well he provides for me, and all the expenses he has had. I often don't get to say much when we argue. He yells and cuts me off when I speak, till I reach a breaking point and just start yelling as well. I decided to end the fight because I was tired and told him that I made the decision to just pay for my stuff with my money and for joint expenses when he gives me money, I will use from that as I didn't want to have another conversation about money with him. He was pretty sarcastic and ranted that I would be doing him a favour and saving him money, but I didn't take the bait and just ended the conversation by pretending to be fine with the arrangement. I know he must be stressed with having to pay all these bills for the first time and me not being able to support him, but AITA for asking him for money to do some personal shopping? Any advice on how to handle this going forward would be most welcome. Thank you