throwaway because I've never had an actual account. For some context, I live in the college dorms and have two roommates, one of whom I met a month prior to moving in (lets call her A) and one I met after moving in (lets call her B), who are both also freshman. We all share one open room and to be able to fit our desks and beds in the room (school provided) we all had to loft our beds. It's a very small space to begin with but we all have our own respective spaces and agreed not to mess with each others minus some shared things. For example, me and A share a fridge that is kept under my bed, we all share a microwave that is also under my bed, and we use a fan, also under my bed. There are a couple other things like cups, a pot, etc. I'm sure there are also some other little things. When we all moved in, we all agreed the current set up the room was in was ideal for all of us, I moved in first and the bed space I chose had an extra half foot or so of space length wise that allowed me to have my desk beside my bed instead of in the space under (this is important for later). This did not seem to be an issue from my point of view as we all agreed first come first serve for picking our beds as well as they both had more access to the space in the middle of our room (A kept her drawers outside her under-bed space in the middle space for an example) and I kept some of our shared things under my bed. Recently, my boyfriend had a really big health scare, he was hospitalized for about a month total and had to have a pretty big surgery, the original complication could have killed him. He was given sick leave after his first hospitalization and allowed to come home (he is in the military) but when he was back, he got hospitalized again and had to have the surgery I mentioned before. I temporarily moved back home, fortunately my family lives not too far from my school so i was able to commute for classes. I communicated this to my roommates and left almost all of my things at our dorm so it wasn't like I moved out physically, I just wasn't sleeping or staying in our dorm during this time. I was busy with school on top of being at the hospital most days and helping him recover after he got discharged so I wasn't around often.

Here's where the issue starts, my boyfriend got called back to his duty station right when my spring quarter was starting so when he left I moved back into our dorm which was last Sunday. I let both of my roommates know I would be back. When I got back, roommate B's bed was moved. It's hard to explain the layout of our room but before, my bed was against the wall with my desk at the foot of it, A's foot of the bed is half a foot a way from the head of my bed and B's foot of the bed was a good 2-3 feet from the head of A's bed. It left us with both me and A having a slight block off to our spaces (albeit As bed being much closer to mine than Bs was to hers) and B with none but the head of her bed shared a wall with the bathroom so I felt that was fair. When I got back, B had moved her bed to fully share the wall of the bathroom. I'd like to mention that the bed is slightly longer than that wall, by about 3-4 inches, meaning her bed sticks out into the hallway from our door to our room. Our closets are in this hallway and are more like cupboards so they take up about half our hallway space. (Our closets are not moveable and there would be no other space for them if they were) Heres the problem with her moving her bed, The foot of her bed is now 2 feet away from my desk meaning if I am sitting at my desk, I need to scoot in until my stomach is pressed into my desk or physically stand up and move my chair for either of them to get by as my back is to the foot of her bed. My closet is also at the end of our hallway, right next to my desk, and now my back needs to be up against her bed to open my closet doors or drawers and they cannot get by if I'm using my closet.

Now, here is the biggest issue: I was told about none of this nor did either of them ask if changing the room layout was okay with me. I understand I was gone for a month, maybe a month and a half, and moving their things around as long as they didn't touch mine would have been totally fine while I was gone but to come back from juggling school and a major health issue and have my space be more confined and access to my desk and closet be restricted felt awful. When I brought it up, B said she wanted me to try moving my things around but that she would be fine moving it back and would be able to do it "this weekend." We had a first short conversation last Monday and then that one last Tuesday so the weekend she referred to would have been the one that just passed. I then sent a text to both roommates that night explaining that I'd much prefer going back to the original layout and I was hurt they decided to change our room and impact my space without asking or even telling me. Now heres where I may be the AH, I had this text drafted and was planing to send it that night but found out B got broken up with a few hours prior to sending it. I had originally considered giving her some time but in the moment I was also overwhelmed and upset about our room situation and I wanted to clear the air on where I stood. I told her it didn't need to be an immediate thing and waiting until the weekend was fine and that I was sorry to hear about her breakup. While I'm not going through a breakup, since my boyfriend left I have no idea when i'll see him next but I know it wont be for 6 months at minimum so I told her I was also going through a lot and I was there if she needed me or we could just both cry together. She responded saying that she had no issues moving her bed back but that she was going through it so I figured that was the end of it and gave her some space. I spent some time with my family this weekend to keep my mind off things and give her space to move things around but when I got back to our dorm yesterday nothing had changed. I texted B asking if something had come up and when she was now planing to move it but she responded by saying her and A had talked and didn't think me asking her to move it back made sense and that it was actually inconsiderate of me to bring it up while she was going through a breakup. This took me aback because one, she didn't communicate any of this to me whatsoever and instead chose to simply not take action, two, she moved things around without asking while I was dealing with a lot and chose to not communicate that in the first place, and three, had a conversation with A behind my back which made it feel like even more of a 2V1 than it already was. We've all become friends since meeting but with me being gone for so long I definitely felt isolated coming back. I communicated as such telling her that I found her actions to be inconsiderate as well if that's what we were choosing to focus on. Now I'll admit that wasn't my best move and I could have handled that better but we're now a week into this and I'm the only one at a disadvantage in this situation, I've been living it for a week since brining it up to both A and B so I'm beyond frustrated at this point. She continued to say we could have another conversation but would not be moving her bed. I haven't had a chance since texting her to talk to B but have since had a talk with A during which she cited me having "much more space" (the close to half foot/foot I cited earlier) as a reason they felt it was fine among other things such as it feels much more open (for them) now, etc. B and I are planing to talk tonight but I feel crazy, I feel so violated by what they did and how they both continue to handle it and neither of them seem to recognize what they did was messed up. I'm starting to feel insane and that I'm the only one who sees something wrong with this so some outside opinions and/or advice would be appreciated. I'm writing this while still being pretty overwhelmed with everything so i apologize if it's hard to read and that it's so long.

TLDR - my roommates changed our shared room layout without consulting me or even letting me know while I was home dealing with a family health emergency for a few weeks. it has been over a week since i asked them to move it back and nothing has changed