It’s almost time for my wedding, this is something exciting and it’s like a dream come true. There’s been a lot of planning that my fiancé and I have to do to make it perfect.

Age: Op(29F) sister (26F)

We already had our invitations made, over 100 cards had to be made to everyone. My fiancé and I do not want kids at the wedding, the only kid that is allowed is my daughter. Everyone was cool of that so no issue, well there was some issues with my family. I didn’t invite half of my family members because they are very toxic and self centered which I don’t want at my wedding, they’ve done nothing but disrespect me and my fiance.

To say hurtful things to me because they didn’t like how I was going with my life, so yes they were not invited, not even my own mom and dad. The only person they got in contact with me to find out the issue was my sister, she was totally upset. When we were younger I told her I will make her my maid of honor but things changed.

She called fussing about not getting an invite, she found out that the invitations went out because my cousin received hers and probably mentioned it. I wasn’t fazed about her attitude, I told her that she was not invited from all the stuff that she did. She told me I should forget about it but it wasn’t that easy, my own family didn’t support me so why should I kiss there ass now? She reminded that I said she will be my maid of honor, I told her what made her think she will be it? She was hurt when I said that and called me an asshole!

Context: My family is the type that doesn’t like when you do stuff they don’t like. This all started when I mentioned I wanted to go to college, my family doesn’t really have graduates and didn’t really think it would help. That’s when they all started to say I think I’m better than them when I never said that, I wanted to break generational trauma. A lot happened when I had my daughter, man they hated him for no reason. My own mom didn’t help me through my pregnancy or come see me but it’s fine, I always remembered. For the things my sister did, she stole from me, she told me she was happy my daughter father died, one time at a family gathering she told everyone I was SA when I told her to keep it a secret so she did it just to hurt me. I’ve been dealing with toxicity my whole life, I thought family respect and love each other but my doesn’t.