So I’ve been planning this birthday trip abroad with a few close friends. something light, chill, but fun. I’ve had a rough year (breakup, life stuff, loneliness) and this trip has felt like a little light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve planned it all myself, from the Airbnb to the itinerary, and kept everyone’s budget in mind. I was really excited.

One of my closest friends (let’s call her Tyler) had said she was coming but just as I was about to book flights, she calls me and says she “just realised” she has a wedding on the same weekend. It’s not someone she’s super close to - they’re friendly, but it’s more of a community/church thing. She wasn’t sure if she would be invited about 2 months ago. And a month ago she was venting to me about how rude the to be bride had been to her in an argument though they are on good terms now. It’s also not the main wedding(which she also will be attending on a separate date), but the traditional part which is more of a party. She’s not a bridesmaid, nothing like that.

It just feels so shit because there was no “let me think about it” or form of hesitation. just “I can’t come anymore sorry.” And she knows what I’ve been going through and how much I was looking forward to this. It’s not like she made a bad choice, but the fact she made it so easily kind of hurts. I didn’t even get a real conversation, just a quick sorry and a “I’ll talk to you later.”

I’ve been trying to not take it personally, but I can’t lie I’m super hurt. She’s my closest friend And the more I think about it, the more I’m like… am I overreacting? Or am I just being too sensitive?

Just wanted to get this off my chest and see what others think. Thanks for reading.

TL;DR : I planned a birthday trip abroad with close friends after a tough year. One of my best friends dropped out last minute because of a traditional wedding (not the main one), for someone she isn’t that close to. She’s not a bridesmaid or anything. I feel hurt and dismissed, especially after all the effort I put into planning. AITA for being upset and needing space from her?